Detachment, Pop-Tarts, and Hope

[ThinkingItThru]

Just a note on some of the debates that have been going on in these forums...

I think that there is room and desire to have all opinions no matter how sweet or how tough they are presented.

And one thing I have learned in the 6 short (ha!) months that I've been here is that sometimes when someone says, "I don't care about you" they mean just that. They are still at home, or they are popping in and out, because it is comfortable and its what they know. Its not that they don't have the guts to make a move, its that they don't have any reason to make a move. Why would they? They have a comfortable home for their kids and themselves and they just have to put up with a roommate. A roommate (LBS) who in many cases is DB'ing so they are non-confrontational and pleasant to be around. As a matter of fact that spouse (LBS) goes out of their way to make life comfortable for them. Doesn't mean they will ever grow out of it, feel love, feel desire, or care about that person (LBS) again. That person (LBS) needs to decide at some point what they want out of life and maybe, just maybe, the spouse will decide to join that journey. But probabilities are against it.