W sent me funny pictures of the hats she made for the kids for Funny Hat Day at school - she took a snow boot and unlaced it and put the foot part on D8's head, then tied it on with a green sash. Then she took one of those square nylon lunch boxes and put it upside down on S6's head. That literally made me ache - that is the "old W" that is funny and spontaneous, and goofy, and fun.
I obviously ignored.
The kids had apparently told her that my family was coming up to visit over their spring break - so she texted me and said that she was only going to have me watch kids while she was in school.
So, I took the opportunity to send her this email: ------------------------------------------------------------ W, First off, let me say that I will ALWAYS watch the kids, no questions asked, if at all possible - even if I have to re-arrange my schedule; I love hanging out with them! As far as spring break, family is coming up to visit, so I will want to have them for a full day or two, but am OK with you having all the rest of the extra time.
However, I was sort of concerned when I got your text. I thought that we would have the dissolution completely finalized, signed, and be divorced by March 30th. It appears that you don't think anything will have changed by then.
I want everything to be completed by March 30th - I want to begin restoring honor to my new family as soon as possible.
To make sure that happens, I will need to have the dissolution papers by this Friday, February 13th. It has been a month since you told me you were starting on the dissolution.
Once we figure out how the kid's schedule is going to change after the dissolution, we can talk specifically about how we will share them over spring break if we need to make changes.
I'm not messing around anymore - she's going to make her choice, and make it permanently. Although it doesn't make me feel great, if she choose OM, my "going dark" will be come permanent.
I just realize time and time again that even when she's "nice", she is disrespecting and dishonoring her husband, herself, and her children - not to mention another full family. (hence my statement about restoring honor).
Whew, it made my gut twist to send that - because she could very well turn around and give me the papers, and stop being "nice" - but that's what I've been preparing for!
