It's hard isn't it? The days of little contact and then suddenly a small step forward that makes you soar!.. The you have to remind yourself that although progress it may mean nothing.
DBing and detachment is definatley the toughest thing I have ever done. The only things that keep me going are God, the love I have for my S, and the success stories and support of those who have traveled this path and come through to save their marriage and have it be better than before.
I realized that through this process if I can do what I can to rebuild this marriage, it's actually a gift I giving myself. Growth, the ability to perservere through maybe one of the most difficult situations you can be faced with in a life lived.
This helps get up everyday and lovingly detach and work on myself (as hard as it is some days), and push on looking for small baby steps in healing.
Hang in there. We all have to keep each other positive!
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
