WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[spellfire]

Take a deep breath and remember, nothing has changed except you going over her words and over-analyzing them.

She is in confused WAW mode right now. That means you don't believe what she is saying. She is saying she doesn't want to proceed. How aggressively is she pursuing this by her actions? If she is arranging somewhere else to live in between packing up her stuff, then you can allow yourself some worry.

Turn your focus back on yourself and stop worrying about what she is doing or saying.

To give her space, do what you normally do, but ease up on the needing physical contact all the time. As I said before, touch her in passing, kiss her goodnight or goodbye and leave it at that. She is responding to the changes (heck, she even said she is proud of you, do you know how many people here would die to hear that from their WAS), but you must not go off the rails. Keep focused on you. Maybe do what I did, write out a detailed plan and stick to it regardless of what you feel.

Hang in there, you can do this. As you grow stronger this will get slightly easier, but you must be ready and willing to grow for that to happen.

You gotta understand, panic and anxiety harm your progress. It's a bit like crossing rickety bridge. Looking down just increases your chances of getting scared and slipping. Keep your eyes up (on you) and stop looking down (her).

Not-so-subtle hint: The reoccurring theme here is that you must grow in order to give the relationship the boost it needs to survive.