H just moved out, 13 months post-bomb

[25yearsmlc]

[quote=Dawn of Hope]Hey, 25 and Glam,
Just a quick note here before I turn in for the night...

No response from H, which surprises me just a little, but not much, and I'm not bothered about it. Oh, something else...I have a checking account that used to be just for my business, but since the bomb, it has become my "everything" account (except for stuff that is paid for out of H's income, like the mortgage). H made a point of saying that he didn't have access to my account, but that was ridiculous...he was with me when I set the password to it, and his name is on the account. Well, the other day when I went online to check my account, I noticed that someone had logged into it earlier that day, and I knew it wasn't me. So I changed my password and security questions to things I didn't think he would be able to guess (of course, that means *I* have to remember them!). The next day, when I logged in, I got a notice that there had been a failed attempt to access the account since I had logged out the day before. Bingo! I don't know for sure that it was him trying to access it, but nothing was ever done to the money that I didn't know about, so whoever it was wasn't being malicious, and I can't imagine that too many other people have the code.


DH,
Run, yes RUN to your bank and find out what the heck is going on. There are only a few reasons your h would want to know how much money you have and NONE of those reasons are good news for you.

See a L for Pete's sake. What have you got to lose by seeing a L and getting a new account? Don't you recall that there is an OW whispering in his ear and pressuring him? Believe me, she is not content to "see how this goes" and if he's looking at your account OR SHE IS, then what are you going to do to protect yourself?

NO one is telling you that you have to file for a divorce but if this doesn't set off alarms, I don't know what will.....here is the response I first felt when I read your post about the bank accounts and someone accessing them...

@#$%^&*()_@#$%^!!!!!!!!


does that help you see my point? What on earth are you waiting and waiting for?

((( j )))