Pomegranate martini indeed...after the D...a great source of antioxidants. LOL.
This AM...when the envelopes were noted to be gone...and she asked for them, I told her that they had to be replaced...that's all.
W: YOU'RE A PIECE OF WORK!!!
(uh....am I mistaken or did SHE deface the envelope by overwriting my signature.
Called my L this morning and spoke to her office manager to give them a heads up that the might call her atty again.
Office manager: I wouldn't worry about it. He MUST be getting tired of hearing from her.
Today...I am doing a mastectomy. As I put on my scrubs, I wonder...again..sometimes...how I got from there to here. It just blows me away that this person....this woman....who I married...has morphed into something so full of hate, anger.....
It still blows me away.
Thanks for your support. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
This threw me for a minute. I thought, "Wait...why is a man getting a mastectomy??" Then the afterburners kicked in on my brain, I read about you putting on your scrubs, and I remembered that you are a doctor. Thanks for that little opportunity to laugh today (even if it is at myself!).
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
Dawn....thanks so much. Clearly she is an angry woman who releases this with verbal abuse and emotional intmidation.
To all my friends:
Tonite, D5 asked me to come up to her room 'and talk on the bed'. She began talking to me about divorce...almost as an adult and, for the first time, started to tell me that 'it is not going to be good for her."
It was not easy keeping a straight face.
It was not easy keeping my eyes from welling up.
It was not easy...to find the right words...to comfort...my beautiful daughter...my gem...my girl.
I now pray to G-d for strength.
I quote again from from my favorite movie Gladiator..."my marriage lays bloodied and cleaved in a field" and..."My wife did her job well".
I will not miss her.
However, three years post bomb, I will soon be facing the inevitable: the finality of D and the separation from my children.
I will grieve the latter.
I hope and pray that you will have patience with me...especially my BetterMen.I may need more than ever.
I am preparing to lose time with my kids.
I will not miss my wife. She died a long time ago.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Dawn....thanks so much. Clearly she is an angry woman who releases this with verbal abuse and emotional intmidation.
To all my friends:
Tonite, D5 asked me to come up to her room "and talk on the bed". She began talking to me about divorce...almost as an adult and, for the first time, started to tell me that "it is not going to be good for her."
It was not easy keeping a straight face.
It was not easy keeping my eyes from welling up.
It was not easy...to find the right words...to comfort...my beautiful daughter...my gem...my girl.
I now pray to G-d for strength.
I quote again from from my favorite movie Gladiator..."my marriage lays bloodied and cleaved in a field" and..."my wife did her job well".
I will not miss her.
However, three years post bomb, I will soon be facing the inevitable: the finality of D and the separation from my children.
I will grieve the latter.
I hope and pray that you will have patience with me...especially my BetterMen.I may need you more than ever.
I am preparing to lose time with my kids.
I will not miss my wife. She died a long time ago.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Me: S8...go get the flashlight for me and I'll take a look in there
(W goes to run for the flashlight and looks in)
W: There's nothing there.
Me: (go to get flashlight)
W: I SAID THERE IS NOTHING THERE. IT'S NOT NECESSARY TO LOOK.
(sigh)
I got the flashlight and looked. In medical school, they taught us to always look at our own labs, Xrays, studies, etc. Never trust the radiologist or report.
I won't change protocol now. LOL. I guess it's now XXX, MD.
FIB
PS...I thought he had some mild posterior pharyngitis but the tonsillar pillars had no injection or exudate.
Oy.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Gman Me 40 W 30 kids B 11 B 10 D 8 Been here off and on since 06. PA Confirmed Dec 08.. With God, anything is possible. Do or do not there is no try. Sometimes you have to roll the hard six...
Me: S8...go get the flashlight for me and I'll take a look in there
(W goes to run for the flashlight and looks in)
W: There's nothing there.
Me: (go to get flashlight)
W: I SAID THERE IS NOTHING THERE. IT'S NOT NECESSARY TO LOOK.
(sigh)
I got the flashlight and looked. In medical school, they taught us to always look at our own labs, Xrays, studies, etc. Never trust the radiologist or report.
I won't change protocol now. LOL. I guess it's now XXX, MD.
FIB
PS...I thought he had some mild posterior pharyngitis but the tonsillar pillars had no injection or exudate.
Oy.
but any vesicles? those really hurt.
this nurse orders some popsicles! stat.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
your w must have learned a lot from when you went to med school and she helped you study for all your tests...oh wait a minute, I was confused. I was thinking of me and my h...she didn't marry you until it was all over. Gee whiz, did she learn medicine by osmosis, just having the knowledge permeate into her by laying next to you? That is flippin' brilliant! Too bad for you that you had to take the idiot's way and actually attend med school and do a residency...tsk tsk...
Anyhow, yes you are going to lose some time with your kids. On the other hand, your time with them won't be stained by your w, and her anvil of anger swinging around your head. Your time with them will be your time with them.
Have a great trip Frank. And do not let her "osmotically" get inside your head with her Swirling Vortex Of Negativity ("SVON" for short) b/c your kids deserve to get the best of you, and you deserve to feel some peace.
Be happy. Have fun. (( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
You will have tons of support as you always have as you progress into the lousy part of D, the lost time with your kids will have an affect on you but not one that you cannot get past. It's good that you are becoming aware and preparing yourself for it.
I agree with Hoosier by the way on the popsicle prescription.....
