1) No matter what, her family will eventually support her and not you. 2) Unless she is on drugs or is sexually abusing them, you will not get 100% custody of your kids regardless of her indiscretions. 3) When she sees your counter paperwork, the gloves will come off and you are in for a dogfight.
Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
1. That is what family is for. I don't expect anything different - but they will support our child before they support either of us. 2. I've actually got custody of my two sons and terminated the parental rights of my ex-wife. I've been through this before and can provide a more stable home, already have a track record, etc. 3. The gloves came off when she filed first. She could very well have accepted joint custody and the better than 50/50 split I offered.
I always plan for the worst. I think at the very least I will walk out with what I've been willing to accept anyway. But if she continues a downward spiral (She's got history with depression, self-cutting, etc.) and pursues a relationship with an alcoholic who lives with his parents right next door to me while tearing her own family apart - I can make a pretty strong case for custody.
She's been very helpful about handing me evidence.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
