Counseling or Divorce

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Update........ so last night he comes in, & wants to negotiate down a request I had made of him 4 weeks ago. I told him it was non-negotiable. He then tries to back peddle, & says fine, I'll do X if you'll do Y. It's always tit for tat with him.

I said I'm already not doing Y, & haven't been for 14 months. The reason I asked you to do X is because Doc suggested it as a result of you doing X 4 weeks ago.

Things go from bad to worse. He tries to defend, block, divert, & blame. I feel like once again, I am not being heard. Nothing I say matters. He wants to change my perception, my wants, my requests.

I told him I wanted a separation.

He said if that's what I wanted, I could move out.

It's interesting... I've been the SAHM for 15 years, but in order to keep things stable & consistent for the kids, I should move out, & he, the one who works 12 hour days for 14 years, & travels up to 16 weeks a year, is now going to do everything I do.

I know a lot of you think that the one who wants out, should get out. But, I lose respect for a man who asks his wife to leave her home & children, after she requests time & space due to his verbal/emotional abuse, & control issues.