Make her "environment" comfortable and safe for her to return. She'll start poking around soon enough.
Think of it like a stray cat. At first it'll be afraid of its new environment, but you leave out food, make it comfortable and don't grab or make any sudden moves, then it'll come closer. Keep doing this and it may decide to stay.
I really like the stray cat strategy. I guess it's a tough balance to go between giving her space and making sure I'm still filling her love buckets (touch, quality time and verbal are her top, service and gifts are very low). The touch part is hardest for me. In the past she wanted me to hug/touch and kiss her and I didn't. Now that's all I want to do and she doesn't. Its so painful
I just want to give us a chance to keep our family together. Is that too much to ask from her?
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
