It's Complicated! Part 4

[glamgirl]

Thanks all for the encouragment. It really helps me to keep going. My h very rarely says he loves me unless I say it first, but since he was gone on his business trip he must of really been missing me and the kids.

He even said how much he missed me. Yes Upside it seems things are going well, but then no move home nor will he ever spend the night. It's as if I have the plague when it comes to that. I was hoping he would spend the night and then that would encourage him to move home, but ain't going to happen.

Thanks TL. My h has always been one to help around the house even before all this happened. I should consider myself lucky, but then h is like that from a fault and can come across as if I can't do anything right.

For example, he says Glam you need to clean as you go like in the cartoon movie Ratatouli. Well I am not some cartoon character. He also says things like Glam you need to be running the washer in parallel when you are cooking dinner, cleaning etc. See where I am going with this. It's nice, but he also makes me feel inadequate.

He tries to put his skills and expectations onto me, which is not fair. I DO NOT by any means lack the skill. I run a very organized and clean house for the most part, it's just that h doesn't seem to be happy with the way I clean or something. I often feel I don't live up to his standards or that I am not good enough in that dept. He is a perfectionist!

Oh well, I am NOT by any means perfect nor is he!

We could both use some work in this area! Haven't heard from h today. We will see what the rest of the week brings.