Hey CIW, I just wanted to stop by and say hello and tell you that you're doing okay. This is a tough journey you're on, my friend, and it may end up being the toughest of your life - but you will find yourself in the end...and that's what is most important.
When I first arrived here I couldn't take my mind off my W for more than a minute - she dropped the bomb on me in May and just never really seemed interested in giving us a chance after that - she moved out in November...and, well...those are the basic facts - around all of this I also went through cycles of pain and confusion and even moments bordering of desperation - but there is something in all of us that helps us endure...
I suggest you go through and read the posts of people like Coach, SmartCookie, Veronica, Refusetolose - not just people who have saved their marriages - but people who came to find themselves first.
Be patient with yourself and take time to be kind to yourself as well. This is a horrible experience - there's no doubt about that - but it's also a tremendous opportunity for you to affirm for yourself who you want to be - and the type of father you will be.
It seems kind of hard to access some of the earlier threads - but if you can find my first posts you'll see a confused, broken man - someone that put all - and I mean ALL - his energy into figuring out his wife...and I wasn't ready to turn my focus onto me until months into the process...this stuff takes time, but when you are ready to you will make all the necessary steps. Trust in your strength...it's what brought you here, after all.
