From what I've read here and from what I have caught in earlier threads, it seems to me that your H is just not taking the sitch seriously. I have to agree with what Gucci was saying: sometimes the separation is needed, maybe that is what your H needs to take your problems with him seriously. It seems like he's doing just a few things, but not all the things you need to see from him. Just enough to keep you going. And that's not what is needed to save this R. You need his FULL commitment! And you are not getting that from him.
You truly have been a completely committed person to your M over the past years and you have shown extreme perseverence. You deserve his commitment and you can demand it!
