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Re: Counseling or Divorce smartcookie #1714257 02/11/09 01:54 AM
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OP smartcookie Member S Joined: May 2008 Posts: 2,978	((((((Jeff sweetie)))))))), how many nights have you slept before leaping ?? I'm counting 18 months of nights. That's long enough. Last edited by smartcookie; 02/11/09 01:54 AM. M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.

Re: Counseling or Divorce smartcookie #1714259 02/11/09 01:55 AM
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Virtually_Handsome Member V Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 13,424 AZ	Originally Posted By: smartcookie I am scared of hurting my children. Join the club on that one, Miss Cookie. I think (I have to at this point) that they really will be better off with parents that are not in an unhealthy relationship. But there is probably a rocky road to that point.

Re: Counseling or Divorce smartcookie #1714260 02/11/09 01:56 AM
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OP smartcookie Member S Joined: May 2008 Posts: 2,978	NewMe, I dropped a bomb.....20 months ago. Now he needs another one ? & then what, a bomb in another 2 years ? I don't think so. M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.

Re: Counseling or Divorce smartcookie #1714261 02/11/09 01:56 AM
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Virtually_Handsome Member V Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 13,424 AZ	Originally Posted By: smartcookie ((((((Jeff sweetie)))))))), how many nights have you slept before leaping ?? I'm counting 18 months of nights. That's long enough. I agree on that! I just was seeing "not after this morning".... I know what you mean. As I have tended to say to other, and even myself, you'll know when it is time. And you've heard the bell go off.

Re: Counseling or Divorce Virtually_Handsome #1714263 02/11/09 01:57 AM
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Virtually_Handsome Member V Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 13,424 AZ	I did kind of like "sleep before you leap" though! Had a nice ring to it! I think I made it up.... $\:\)$

Re: Counseling or Divorce Virtually_Handsome #1714268 02/11/09 01:59 AM
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OP smartcookie Member S Joined: May 2008 Posts: 2,978	Jeff, I have been taking a hard look at the role model for a marriage that I am setting for my kids. I'm not happy with what I see, & what I'm passing on to them. Hugs M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.

Re: Counseling or Divorce smartcookie #1714271 02/11/09 02:00 AM
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Virtually_Handsome Member V Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 13,424 AZ	Originally Posted By: smartcookie Jeff, I have been taking a hard look at the role model for a marriage that I am setting for my kids. I'm not happy with what I see, & what I'm passing on to them. Hugs I could have written that. Hopefully that will get turned around a bit!

Re: Counseling or Divorce Virtually_Handsome #1714273 02/11/09 02:01 AM
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OP smartcookie Member S Joined: May 2008 Posts: 2,978	Originally Posted By: Virtually_Handsome I did kind of like "sleep before you leap" though! Had a nice ring to it! I think I made it up.... $\:\)$ You're so cute !! sg was right with your new handle. lol Don't worry. I will. I've been patient this long. I apply to the police dept at 7 am tomorrow morning. I see Doc tomorrow afternoon. I get my final exam results on the medical transcribing school in 2 weeks. Both jobs start around 45K. What's a few more nights ?? Hugs M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.

Re: Counseling or Divorce smartcookie #1714277 02/11/09 02:04 AM
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Virtually_Handsome Member V Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 13,424 AZ	Good luck with the job hunting! Yeah, what's a few more nights..... I've kinda decided a few more nights aren't too bad once you are unstuck. It makes all the difference.

Re: Counseling or Divorce smartcookie #1714278 02/11/09 02:05 AM
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OP smartcookie Member S Joined: May 2008 Posts: 2,978	((confusedinpa)) Thank you for sharing that. I'm sorry for what you're experiencing. I wish you all the best. M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.

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