NewMe, I dropped a bomb.....20 months ago. Now he needs another one ? & then what, a bomb in another 2 years ?

I don't think so.

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.