Don't want to hijacks Still's thread!! I don't because he says he's not. I don't think he would hurt me the way I hurt him. Also, if he had, I think he would take great joy in throwing it in my face. Don't know. NHT, I know he would get less BAH. Don't think that has anything to do with it, but I guess it might. Never thought of it. How long does it really take to decide if you want a marriage to work or not and take steps toward that or is he and I am too blind to see it?
Still, I feel like I am surprised at your want to reveal everything to her whole family. But I don't know why. I have been talking to inlaws about H and OW, so why wouldn't you want to reveal your W's OM to them. Hmm. Something for me to ponder. In my stitch, H was upfront with them about OW. He maintains even to them that nothing is going on and even they tell me that nothing handsy happened while they were there at Christmas, (other than H and OW sleeping in the same bed, ) There was no outward display of affection, at all. My son maintains the same, that at home they sleep in different rooms, although not sure he would know 100%.
So, why would it not be okay for you to reveal to them. It should be okay, it's just that it seems spiteful. Not by anything you have done, just the stitch in general. I don't know if it would win her back to you or not, or if it's the kiss of death. Just depends on the family I guess. Not sure. Toughie. Do you see how doing it could be the kiss of death? I see how not revealing allows her to stay living in lala land. Hmm.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
) There was no outward display of affection, at all. My son maintains the same, that at home they sleep in different rooms, although not sure he would know 100%. 