Ok, I am here, now what?

[whitneypinch]

We went skating and it was so nice. I could see my W was strained though.
Over the next week we had some decent interactions and she was actually nice to me a few times. Then I said something and it triggered something in her and she laid into me. I kind of told her that we were just talking at each other and not to each other.
Anyway we sort of ended up in a bit of a R talk. She wants us to be one of those divorced couples that remain friends and I told her I wanted more. She then started to negotiate with me to which I said that I think it's best for us to only have contact when we need to discuss the kids. She said she did not want it to go that way. I just got to the point where I could not take it anymore. She was not being truthful to me and it just hurt too much. I think she really does not like it when someone does not like her. I think there may be a bit of guilt in there as well. My W has a completely different life now. I don’t believe we would fit into each others lives anymore.
So I am on day 2 of no contact. Since the day she dropped the B we have not gone more than a few days without talking. I know this is the best for me and in some ways I think it may be better for her to really feel me being gone. Will it have any effect, probably not. I just have to focus on me and my kids so much more now.
We are officially divorced now.