Forgive me if I am repeating myself, I often lose track of what I recommend to who. In addition to DB and/or DR, please get and read the following books:

"No More Mr Nice Guy" by Robert Glover
"Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida
"Hold on to Your N.U.T.S." by Wayne Levine

I found them to be very empowering. I have never been one to let anyone walk all over me (W would say I am as stubborn as a mule in fact), but I still found a lot of good information. I think you stand to benefit even more than I did from these three books.

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You are probably reading this and saying "What the !@#$%!".


Au contraire, I was actually saying "yeah, that the way to do it!" ;\)

Spellfire aka Mike

"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A