Wow, that is great. It is so wonderful to see that things are getting so much better for you. You truly do inspire me (even if I don't always put your advise into practice!). It is also so inspiring to see that your W can accept that gift from you and not feel like, "Oh, he's probably still spying on me." That shows true forgiveness on both your parts. God bless you.
Hope you read this, yesterday you said something to committed that I thought was interesting. You said that we need to look at our WAS as adversaries to the M. Can you elaborate on that for me. Right now I feel like H is my adversary and not my ally. Doesn't that mean that I should not associate nor communicate with him, which is what I feel right now. Anyway, I was just curious to know who to DB and still see the WAS as an adversary.
I believe what I said was that in their wayward (adulterous) state, they are not a friend of the marriage. And I believe that. A person in an active affair does NOT have the marriage's best interests at heart, and in fact is usually actively working with the OM/OW on its DEMISE.
It was hard for me to "love the sinner/hate the sin" and to simultaneously see my wife lovingly and also as an enemy of our marriage.
just caught up with you here and read your note about the laptop. That's really wonderful!! all of it!! Know that you and the fetching Mrs. will be in my prayers next weekend, and I consider it an honor and a privilege to do so. And I know it will turn out wonderfully for you because you already have such a great start going in. You have been such a blessing--and you deserve some blessings of your own!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Pup, thanks for the update!!! I'm glad things are going so well. Your recent posts seem so amazingly happy!!! Your happiness kind of jumps off the page! ((((Pup)))))
Thanks Pup. YES, absulutely makes sense. My H is definitely not acting in the best interest of the M. In fact it funny how he has come to see me as his adversary and OW as his ally. And OW does a good job of helping him out with that. All she has to do is dangling his son in his face and that all works in her favor. Anyway, I need to keep that perspective when thinking about H, b/c he really has shown in his actions that he doesn't care about the M no matter what he says when he thinks he is losing me.
By the way, don't you just love how I have created a thread all dedicated to you. I haven't been on the site that long but I tell that there is much well deserved love for you.
((((Pup)))))