I'm worried about giving her space as she has already emotionally moved on and I know once she physically moves on, she is such a strong willed determined woman that she will make it work and will never come back. That's what I'm afraid of, but I know the right answer is that I will need to let her go. I really feel like I don't have a good choice to make.
I'm right there with you, this is something that I feel about my sitch. My DB coach made a good analogy - try to remember when you were a kid if someone grabbed you to keep you from doing something, or stop you from leaving, what was your response. If you are like me, you fought to escape the grip and get away. However, if they let go, and asked you to do something, or not leave, now you had a choice, and maybe you decided differently.
This hit home with me, because I have been afraid to let go, and doing so has been the greatest challenge I have ever faced.
You can do it. You must do it. It's not easy, it's almost unbearable at times, but as you said yourself
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I know the right answer is that I will need to let her go
Also remember that feelings change. Her feelings for you already changed once, they can change again.
But not while you are clutching onto her like a drowning man.
Sometimes people drown because someone trying to save them gets dragged down, and they have to let go to save themselves. (not sure I worded that right, but I hope you get the analogy)
