WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[confusedinpa]

I know it's really really hard to not put her top of mind, but loosen up a bit and let her think things out on her own. Yes it will seem like you two are drifting apart, but she needs that for her own self-discovery. It's obvious she sees there are issues with herself so let her figure it out herself. How would you like it if you wanted to be left alone with your thoughts but kept having someone hanging around you asking if you were okay. It would get pretty irritating.

Stuck808,

What's driving me crazy is that I keep thinking that the longer it goes, the more she'll forget about when she had the feeling. Perhaps I'm fooling myself, it sounds like she already has erased all the good memories.

I know I need to give her space - which is why I pushed her to have a her day on Sat. I'm giving it again next Sat when I take my boys to the monster truck show.

I have actually given her space in the past as I used to travel 1 week every 2 months. Last nite she even brought up as she enjoyed that time as it was so stress-free and she felt she didn't have to follow my "rules"/controlling attitude - my last trip was in early December. I think that helped cement her decision that life is better without me. I think she was originally going to tell me just after Xmas but she had gotten sick.

I'm worried about giving her space as she has already emotionally moved on and I know once she physically moves on, she is such a strong willed determined woman that she will make it work and will never come back. That's what I'm afraid of, but I know the right answer is that I will need to let her go. I really feel like I don't have a good choice to make.

I do appreciate your insight and it helps give me resolve to continue.

Thanks