Initially that's how I interpreted it too, but after being here a while my perspective has changed. GAL to me means that you no longer plan all your time around your family, and you have a life of your own. That can be going out with your buddies, or it can be sitting at home reading a book, the point being that it is your life and your time, and it is just for you.
She is confused. You really need to accept this fact. Do not fight her on the process, but try to stall/draw it out if you can so that you have more time to DB. I have heard that many W go through the motions and then don't have the guts to complete, but I don't really have experience with this to back it up.
That makes a lot of sense for getting a life. I'll have to keep that in perspective.
I hope she really is confused. She speaks with a lot of clarify that she wants to leave. She does seems sad when she says it sometimes. Her actions are showing more and more of distancing herself from me - less responsive.
It does hurt when she doesn't respond or when I hear her say that she can't see me as her husband. I know I caused her a lot of hurt.
I'm worried if I stall/draw out the process, it will just get her angrier as she will feel that I'm trying to control her again (which is one of her issues). My lawyer said I can easily push it out another couple of months. I had asked her to postpone it (only she can as she is the one who filed), but that was the nite she got really angry at me when I also brought up seperation instead. In PA, there is not really a legal form of separation. It's either married or divorced. I think that's why there is a 2 year waiting period.
I just have to really maximize my efforts over the next couple of weeks and hope for the best.
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
