WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[confusedinpa]

I'm glad the C session went well.

One thing I cannot stress enough is that you've got to loosen your emotional hold on your W.

I'm actually not sure that the counseling session went well at all. We seem to be focused so much on what caused her pain/hurt. Her anger/resentment during our first dance due to my "joke" of long song really hurt her. I thought that was going to be the nail in my coffin.

What do you mean about losen my emotional hold on my wife? I think I had done just that over the past several years is what got me in the bind.

I did try the separation discussion last Thurs nite, but it didn't really get me anywhere. She got really mad about it and slept on the couch that nite. I guess I'll have to try again. She just didn't want to be in "limbo" for such a long time - she's already frustrated that I don't agree and it will take 2 years.

I was actually surprised my counselor said I should say it to my wife as well.

I do appreciate learning from your experience.

Thanks