Have you tried writing it down for him? Maybe even writing out a contract of what you and he will and will not do to each other. Your H sounds as stubborn as my W and sometimes communicating to her in a different way works.
Then you can hang it somewhere prominently as a daily reminder. Sounds kinda small, but you've tried everything else.
I think you need to find a different way of talking to him. I know it's more work on your part, but maybe there's a way of getting him to change without directly telling him.
For example, with my W, I could not tell her that she seemed depressed and that she should talk about it. She would immediately shut down and say "I'm fine." Instead, I bought her a card that talked about support and wrote a message in it for her. She appreciated that much more.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
