1. Any contact with the OM should elicit a further detachment from me? 2. My surveillence is unknown to her right now and I don't want to change that. 3. No contact with OM for about a week now. 4. Moving out this weekend...(I know Mel....) Ideas on how to interact going forward from there?
She seems to be changing but I hear what you are saying above. I have no desire to subsidize her OM addiction or connect with her on the marriage until that cycle is broken...
What now then?
Stay the course.
Give nothing; expect nothing.
As for #1, I'd recommend that you be fully detached ANYWAY at this point. As for #2, yes -- NEVER reveal the source of your intel!
