Thanks all,

I'm getting the following:

1. Any contact with the OM should elicit a further detachment from me?
2. My surveillence is unknown to her right now and I don't want to change that.
3. No contact with OM for about a week now.
4. Moving out this weekend...(I know Mel....) Ideas on how to interact going forward from there?

She seems to be changing but I hear what you are saying above. I have no desire to subsidize her OM addiction or connect with her on the marriage until that cycle is broken...

What now then?

Jeff


***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***

Me: 43
W: 38
SD-15
S(s): 12,9,7
Separated-2/14/2009
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