Starting back at square one....

[still.struggling]

I hope you have better luck than I had.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Telling them they need to do something...how effective was that on you Amy.

And by the way WTF is wrong today Amy?

[fisherman]

that supposed to read don't btw.

[still.struggling]

As Mach keeps telling me....stop thinking.

I am going to stop thinking and go back into my little fantasy world and live. It worked in the past and it can work again.

[fisherman]

I did tell her she needed to do something by the way it was phrased, but the message was clear. I'm not going to let her speak to me that way.

[still.struggling]

I did tell her she needed to do something by the way it was phrased, but the message was clear. I'm not going to let her speak to me that way.

Good for you!

[still.struggling]

Well pudding pop...this was not the humor I had in mind but it did keep me busy for a bit.

Now I am going to wish you well with everything and bow out gracefully.

[Jimbo]

I did do a little anti-dbing the other night. I called her on her attitude. She started getting pissy and I told her Ya know three months ago you were crying and telling me you don't know why you treat me so awful. I told her she needed to find the answer to that.

She started to cry little. Then after a couple of minutes later acted as happy as can be and was joking around with me.

Now she a button pushing control freak again.....normal for where she's at I guess.

I'm sure the other night had a lot to do with it.

WELCOME TO MY WORLD!!! I have been living in the world of not knowing what the hell they are talking about for so long now I feel I can be Mayor.

I used to make my stbx mad just so he would open up and talk to me. I would get off the phone in tears but at least I knew where he stood...or so I thought. The next day he would act like we never had the conversation. WTH???

Very much par for the course- the "emotion du jour", so to speak. More like the "emotion du moment". The memories of conversations are much the same. You think you've come to an understanding....and you have...for the moment. Then the moment changes. Recognize that the expressions of everything are "in the moment" and are null and void after no longer than a day (often MUCH shorter) and you'll get the idea.

Since all of this $#!+ seems to be dredged up from unresolved issues in the MLCers subconscious, it seems to me that what we say DOES have an effect on them at the subconscious level, since they're dealing with the issues at that level anyway. I'd go so far as to say that it's much like they're walking around in the equivalent to a highly suggestible hypnotized state- taking in everything that they hear EVERYONE say to them ON SOME DEEP LEVEL (OP included), and then processing it slowly over time. Everybody does this to some degree. I think that over time, if the interactions are, like Amy says, respectful, then that is what you can expect to be building on....

We never truly forget....we only forget to remember.

[fisherman]

I just got an email back from her saying sorry, and that she has a lot going on and a lot on her mind. That she would never try to keep my son away from me on his birthday. (but it looks like that is what is happening anyway.)

Jimbo where is that famous line?

[fisherman]

I haven't seen or heard that word from her in years.

Now I too will say sorry for swiping your thread T2.