One thing I cannot stress enough is that you've got to loosen your emotional hold on your W. She sounds exactly like mine and the more I held onto her, the more distant she became. She has alot of unresolved anger issues with her WAW father and other male figures in her life. It was only when I let go that she came to grips with some of her problems. And she's refused to go to C. At least your W has that.
Rather than pushing for a D, I would suggest you recommend a S. Tell your W that out of respect for you that's the least she could do. It will give you both a chance to sort out your problems on your own without the constant push and pull you are going through with each other.
My W was hell bent on a D and I recommended a S. It was tough but it was much better than D. If you or her have any objections about it due to money reasons or whatever, just think. Is D going to be any better in those terms?
I think one of the worst things your C did was to tell you to tell your W you love her. That's what you've been doing all this time and it hasn't gotten you anywhere. Trust me, your W knows and no amount of repetition is going to make her change her mind.
She has to WANT the R. Not be pressured into it by you.
Sorry just my 2 cents. I just see you repeating many of the mistakes I was and wish I had someone to tell me the same when I was going through everything.
Good luck guy.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
