I just took this quiz at Oprah's website:
http://www.oprah.com/survey/relationships/couples/20080827_tows_cheating

It exemplifies what troubles me with this approach...It's a quiz for a wife to determine if her H is cheating - I answered it honestly from my point of view - and it would have warned B that I was cheating on her...though that was never the case when she dropped the bomb...It seems like a gimmicky way to get people to worry about and try to fix their marriages...not by working on themselves but by fixating on their impressions of their partner - if B would have taken this quiz, she would have certainly been convinced that I was cheating on her - which would just have been a distraction from the real issues at hand...

-Carlos.


Me:39
S3,S13

"We consent to live like sheep." W.H. Auden

On my own
Separation #4