\My wife is going to leave me in 5 days--help!

[AFWAW]

Well, I went to the base today to do some more inprocessing and she asked if I would bring her boots to her. She said where do you want to meet? I said how about the BX. She said fine, just let me know when you get there.

So my question is: Why doesn't she want me to know where she is at? Is it because she thinks I'm going to try and come over and talk to her or is it because someone else is there with her?

I don't think she is being totally honest about something. In the military, if you get caught committing adultry, you can get in trouble. Something just doesn't add up--working out, hair color, new clothes, lost weight, seems happy and confident, email account w/ her maiden name. On top of that, she wants no contact w/ me, doesn't want to talk about the relationship since the first night. If she is having an affair, I would forgive her of course but I don't know if she is just yet--I'm trying not to be naive but it's damn confusing as to what the real reason is.

Hopefully, the MC can get to the root of the problem but then again, she could lie to the MC as well.

I did dress nice last night for our family night out and wear cologne. She noticed and made comments. She also said again today that I looked good and skinny. She said you look better--I said, yeah I guess. She said I knew you'd be fine, smiled and walked off. Wanted to grab her, hold her down and make her tell me what the hell she was thinking leaving me and her daughter but of course did not.

Talked w/ an old friend from my last unit about it. He was shocked of course. Told me that 5 months ago the wife was talking about how great things were, how great I was, etc. Anyway, my friend told me we would hang out. So, I rekindled a friendship since I've been back. Wish I could rekindle my marraige that easily.

I have no idea what to expect at marraige counseling. I'm gonna try to keep my mouth shut unless asked something by the MC. I have not said one unkind word to my wife since this has happened. Sometimes, I feel almost like she wants me to argue with her though. Well, I'm going to try and eat something, then go to MC. Wish me luck.

John