Good for you to not respond right away. Email and texting help to communicate without having all the emotions visible. Good and bad thing -but right now it has given you time to think about yourself, your goals and what your next step might be.
Focus on the M and resist the temptation to focus on reacting to whatever she says or does. DB book also reminds us that during this time not to believe everything you see and only half of what you hear. But there is a tendency in M to decompensate emotionally into arguments and behavior that is retaliatory vs supportive or problem solving. That is where we all get into trouble.
Will check in later - I have to go to work - its my long day into the night -day. So many problems, so little time to solve them. Take a deep breath and do what you can. It helps me a lot to think about the question, "how can I communicate I love and communicate what I want".
