I am sure it will just take awhile for you two to be more relaxed around each other. No need to force it. She just has to go through what she is going through. You can't help her. She needs to do it at her own pace and to figure out things for herself. Sometimes the results are good, sometimes they need to get lost first.

Me:39
H:40
S:9
D:7
First Bomb ONS:June 07
Second Bomb OW: March 08
Separated: March 08
M:15 yrs
T:18 yrs
H deep into A with OW
Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09

'Yes, I can.'