I think you're probably right that you have to detach a little more PM. I know for myself that I'm just wasting energy on wondering what my W is thinking or why she is acting in a particular way (if I'm honest though, I still do it - it's hard not to!). I need to follow my own advice and detach some more too. There's still far too many emotions which rear their ugly head every time I even see my W. Somehow, I have to get away from that. I think you do too. I hope you can still find something to laugh about. I watched an incredibly juvenile, immature, predictable comedy movie last night. I don't think I've laughed so much in weeks!
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.