stella: dancing in limbo

[stella_k]

(((((Addie))))! (((((nlt))))!

I'm so happy to "see" you, guys!

Remember, how much time we used to spend on the boards?!

Yes, Addie, H is doing it again. It is strange, how I have this urge to defend him, still! MLC takes everything from these men (and women) - their careers, their dignity, their principles - everything goes.

I feel like I constantly have to remind myself of the great guy he used tobe, not to let this person go into oblivion.

Now I'll tell you what I've done yesterday. We have a MF of many years who fought ferociously against H moving in with OW (H confided in him a lot back then). He has stopped all the contact with H since H started living with OW. H seemed not to notice MFs abscence from Hs life.
Then two weeks ago H has asked me about MF, how he's doing and whether I see him sometimes. I said, he's fine and yes, I do, why? H said, just so. A couple of days ago he asked me again: have you heard from MF recently? Once again, out of the blue.
As far as I remember, there is "reconnection with old friends" in the last stage of MLC. So I started wondering - why all of a sudden H is so interested in MF's whereabouts?
So yesterday I called MF and asked him over for dinner. Of course we spoke about H most of the time. MF says he still cannot believe H's choice. When I tild him about H's recent "decision" to dump the OW and come back, MF said H reminds him of a little boy "playing outside" and not noticing that he's frosen, hungry and tired. But as long as his Mom is calling him , he's wanting to stay and play just a bit longer.
I said, I'm not calling him anymore.
Anyway, I ended up asking MF to initiate contact with H and see if H wants to talk. MF said, he will do it for me.
Unfortunately, he's leaving the town for two weeks, so he'll call H when he's back.
Meanwhile I'm going to stay away from H as much as possible.
I didn't return his last two calls and I have no intention to see him any time soon.

And I feel much better .

(((((Hugs)))) to all.