Sounds like you're dealing with some huge issues with your H. It also appears that maybe he hasn't learned anything from the difficulties in your R.
We had a stressful couple months in our R before we got married (and a lot had to do with me and my issues) and he basically said that I needed counseling and if I didn't go, he didn't know if he could continue the way we were going. I went. I wanted things to work and I wanted him to be happy in our R.
Okay, what you two are doing isn't quite working since both of you feel disconnected from each other.
Have you asked your H what he thinks should happen in order for you both to feel better about your M? In lieu of counseling what does he think should happen in order for you two to connect with each other?
His control and emotional/verbal abuse are huge issues. They whittle away at a person. I don't know, but his response to you and your counseling isn't very loving at all. Does he really want this to work?
