It seems to be working! Sometimes....

[sandycay]

Sandy, I'm so sorry to hear this. I don't think he's ever really had no-contact, which is why he's not over her, but you can't control that. He has to WANT this, and it doesn't sound like he's willing to face the maturity needed in order to do so.

I say "b.s. " too -- love ABSOLUTELY is a decision!!!

Puppy

Puppy

I really don't think he has been in contact with her. Here's why:

He has never denied anything to do with her
There are no phone records to show it. He gave me his work cell phone password to log into his account
She lives on the other side of the world
it would cost money for a secret phone and we don't have unaccounted for money.
His time is accounted for
I know where there is a will there is a way however, but he has given me the password to work computer and email

and I know the secret email that they used to share and she has written him a few times there about 8 since last May and none of them have ever been open. I am the only one to log into that account because it tells you the last day someone was on there.

I think he is just confused as to why he did what he did and hasn't reconciled with himself yet.