"That was the single most depressing thing I had to come to grips with. It's gut-wrenching, realizing that -- to survive -- you have to temporarily treat your wife like an adversary."
Couldn't agree more. Thank you for your input and encouregement. I promise I'll try to stick to the plan. It just kills me inside, but I guess the ultimate goal of being happily married again is worth it!
side note: I hope, I'm not being overconfident but I have no doubt that her affair will end eventually. There is too many differences and too much guilt on her side to make it work on a long run. I just feel sorry for her (and myself) that she's been waisting time and our lives. For nothing. One day she'll be able to see it clearly but I hope it will not be too late for us.
