Just as an observer, I think you nailed it in a earlier post. You really didn't go through a separation the first time. It makes a huge difference IMO, and in my experience. This is an opportunity for the WAW to feel what it REALLY means to 'be separated' and to be a 'single parent'. It's those two realization that snapped my ex out of her comatose state. What they perceive is nothing like what they actually experience during a separation. Reality shows it's ugly face. It takes time for them to come to this realization that it's not exactly what they envisioned, but it will dawn on them eventually.
Some on here may not agree with the separation part and will rationalize that it causes more harm then good. I'm sure not all situations are changed by a separation, but mine most definitely was. The problem with me was I no longer desired a relationship with her when she finally 'came out of it' 3 years later. That's the ironic part... the pursuer becoming the pursued. I didn't stay focused on wining her back because I was enjoying finding myself again... weird, but it happens. I'm probably a horrible endorsement for DB, but it's only because I didn't hold up my part of the bargain. I do think it can work if you can hold on long enough.
Anyway, moral of the story is it's never over till YOU say it's over. Hang in there!
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
