I am so glad that you were able to take this difficult news and use it to move things along in your M/R.

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I guess it makes me doubt the whole point of marriage or even long term Rs, for that matter. Why bother? It's like it means so little to people anymore. I'm not feeling that way so much NOW, but have been fighting it ever since I heard the news.


I totally get that. I am glad you are feeling better now, though.

I am curious about what has strengthened your relationship lately? and did you find a "big" mutual goal? (Or is the goal to just survive the extra work load?)
(((Nik)))

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing