"Remember the OM is no just sitting there waiting for you to convince her to come back. He is doing everything possible to get her to chose him!!! He invaded your territory and took your wife....don't be like the French and surrender...fight!!!"
I realize that. That's what upsets me the most. Apparently he says that she can leave any time she wants, he would not push her, blah blah blah... yeah, he can afford to be the wise knight with the shiny armor, since they've been leaving together, and I have to fight from the distance.
As I mentioned before, he is 51 (17 years older than her), divorced twice, first wife the same age as him, second wife now 35, left him. Hmm, I wonder why? :-) Of course my W knows all that but I'm sure he was able to sell her his story on a positive note.
Nobody at work knows anything. I'm positive because used to work there part time (quit a month ago), and still have many friends out there.I'm very reluctant about telling the truth at their work place. I'm afraid it will make things worse.
On the other hand she's been mentioning lately about getting another job (I could help her easily with this) but for obvious reasons I will not do anything until she comes clean.
Her family knows, I was the one who told them, and ever since I've been very close with my in laws. They are trying to help, but what can you do over the phone, plus as I said my beloved W is very stubborn.
