Trying to let go........with love!

[Silent Chrleader]

Well, I just got back from shooting hoops with S17. While we were there, I suggested that he should invite his Dad to do that with him sometime. S said "Why don't we ask him to join?". So he called H.

As it turned out H was busy so he couldn't join, but I suggested that they do it tomorrow evening, just the two of them. And then I offere to make them dinner. H then asked to talk to me and he was really upbeat. He had just got off the phone with another bankruptcy lawyer who apparently more of an expert than the one we saw on Saturday. H really liked this guy and said he explained things much better. This guy seems to think we can keep both houses because we are seperated and H said maybe he could do the work on the main house and I could move back there rather than us rent it out.....?? :)I asked about the need to seperate and he said we may need to, but shouldn't have to get a D.

I stayed upbeat and enthusiastic about it, and told H that I did not mean to put him on the spot by S17 calling him, and explained how the idea came about and that it really was S17's suggestion, and that I would be happy to make dinner for them, and then retire to my room so they can have the evening together. H said "just so there's no strings" and I said "of course not".

H said he already had halibut thawing for tomorrow, so he is going to bring it over tomorrow, so now I have to find a really good recipe!! And I need be friendly but aloof and give him and S their space. I am really glad that he is willing to spend this time with S.

And then I am going very very dim until our C session together next Wednesday. No contact, or at least not at my instigation.

And, hey, (((((Glam))))), thanks for your post. I know you are absolutely right. I get so very frustrated with myself! Sometimes I really do think some of it's hormonal (i.e. peri-menopausal), because I can be doing just fine and then something hits me wrong and BOOM! I'm blubbering like an idiot! [You guys on these boards ar so luck you don't have to go through this! ]

And, Glam, please keep me posted on when you plan to be here. Send me an e-mail through the Alt!

Well, for all the crapola today, I am glad to be ending this day on an upnote!