I'm glad you feel better Mel. That is great to hear. Remember to take baby steps with him. Each time you see him, put in another baby step. Don't rush anything. Its interesting. For my the days are the hardest. I hate the sunlight. I prefer the dark. For you, its the nights that are hard. Crying in the pillow.

Remember, detach, detach, detach. When he sees you don't need him, he may think twice. If he sees you needing him, there is no incentive for him to change his ways. He has you where he wants you. He has his cake and is eating it to.

Be strong, you can do it. Do you do anything in the evenings after work? Join a group of some kind. Make yourself get out and socialize. I ready where you said he is the social butterfly. Become one yourself. Join a softball league or whatever group that does something that interests you. Go to dinner with friends from work. GAL. He may find it more appealing in you. Who knows. He may realize you have moved on and he may feel like uh oh, she doesn't need me anymore. I want her back. You never know.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...