Yep, thanks. It IS amazing how fast the feelings fade. And Steve, you're prophetic. Heard through the grapevine today that XW ended relationship #2. I'm sure it's because once the new guy started calling and wanting to do things, she was back in that position that she was with me; she isn't willing to put time or energy into anyone but herself, and moreover, she isn't willing to even entertain the thought that there can be balance. She jettisons anything that might be a drag to her focusing on herself and chalks it up to her "independence." Sad, really. Life is all about finding balance.
In retrospect, I put up with a lot without asking for much in return, but I seldom even got that little bit. Lesson learned. The importance of spotting red flags early on, duly noted. The firm boundary of me asking for what I want and standing up for those needs, now being enforced. No more mr. nice guy.
