It's obvious your W has self-esteem problems. She's always looking for the approval of others and it's sad that she says she gets only approval from her D7.
I would stop validating her and start putting your foot down. Tell her it is her responsibility to feel how she does. You don't control her feelings! She chooses to be the victim and would rather blame others than look within her own insecurities.
If there is anything you do before you leave, I would suggest you do that. Apologize for what you did REALLY did wrong and then tell her that once you're not around she'll see that she'll have no one else to blame but herself for her failings.
That's why she goes from relationship to relationship to someone who she believes is the stronger person. She's looking for a protector to shield her from her own insecurities. Problem is she'll keep repeating this pattern because she hasn't addressed the real issue which is herself.
Please read this again, because stuck nailed it IMO. ^
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
