My friend has a wife of 14 years. After getting advice at the request of his wife, he moved out. She seemed a little shocked and always wonders how he is doing (washing, food etc).
Of course he desperately wants to save his relationship and I told him he has to be very patient.
Well he has been going through GAL and seems to be doing well. But suddenly after moving out and GALing for a few weeks, his wife wants him to come over all the time for the daughter and seems to want to spend time with him (shopping, ice-skating, etc). She is making no indications that she wants to work on the relationship, however.
What should he do? It was totally different for me. Can someone give some advice about a section in teh book that deals with this (The Divorce Remedy) or other advice?
(Unfortunately, I'm separated from my wife, I did everything wrong and didn't start DBing soon enough, but I read the whole book and now a friend needs help, so I leant him the book and he has a problem. On the other hand, I was single for a good while and had a great time GALing (for me) and eventually met a wonder lady once I was ready)
All the advice I have so far indicates that he should get even more space. I think she's falling into the 'I'm happy with this situation' mode and - well thats just not ok with him of course.