It sounds as if she is trying to make everything sound "normal" between you. Sort of like you are friends instead of husband and wife.
Maybe spending some quality time with the grandkids would do you a world of good. As for the bike, if you don't mind her having it tell her it will be on the porch or somewhere like that and that she can pick it up, you are not a delivery man!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Maybe spending some quality time with the grandkids would do you a world of good. As for the bike, if you don't mind her having it tell her it will be on the porch or somewhere like that and that she can pick it up, you are not a delivery man!
kat
I agree, just phrase it nicely, like the bike will be on the porch or something like that. Feel free to come pick up whenever is good for you! Karen
Maybe spending some quality time with the grandkids would do you a world of good. As for the bike, if you don't mind her having it tell her it will be on the porch or somewhere like that and that she can pick it up, you are not a delivery man!
kat
I agree, just phrase it nicely, like the bike will be on the porch or something like that. Feel free to come pick up whenever is good for you! Karen
Thanks for confirming the intent of that email. It is easy for me to try to read too much into it.
I do like the grandchildren. You are right, I am not the delivery boy.
Best to continue trying to detach -- nothing there to attach to.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09
On Monday, 9 Feb, I received the email that some posters have responded to. Later in the day, I was called in by my bosses. They said they had received a phone call from an unknow male. That caller told them I was acting erratically and they needed to know. Then the boss handed me the number to the company's mental health people. Talk about being humilated. I am a private person and have done a good job of seperating that from work. The only reason I was not fired was I told my supervisor just a little about the situation when this got going back in Oct. Anyway, someone is out to do me out of a job. Makes no sense because it is the equivalent of killing the golden goose.
We are under court order to provide financial information to the attorneys -- things like credit card statements, appraisals, cost of living figures. Mine were turned in a week prior to the required date. It is 3 days after the deadline and WW has provided nothing.
I have notified attorney about the call and requested action on the court items. You've just got to love the extra stress that is imposed.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09
Wow! I can't believe that was done. No one ever said that WAS are in the right frame of mind. If she is behind this, this act certainly proves that point.
It was good fore thought on your part to let your supervisor know about the situation. Divorce in itself is terrible enough but add OP and you have the recipe for disaster.
Keep taking the high road.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Sadly I can. I think the plan is to crush me mentally, financially, and emotionally. The overall sequence of events (WW leaving, moving OM in, gameplaying with attorneys, portrayl as the victim, undermining with children & employer) plays just like a script.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09
I know it must be very painful for a person like you who is very private about their life. However, since you have to provide so much other information, I would be honest, open and upfront about all of it to your boss before I allowed some unknow person to take my job. Why would they just accept the caller's word for it? You are the person they know. Do they not realize how absurd that makes them appear, Or do they have to take every prake call as legitimate?
I know you can't divulge information, but it seems so crazy that they would even suggest that you see a mental health provider! You did the smart thing by contacting your lawyer immediately.
I'll be thinking about ya and hoping things will turn out fine.
Take care, Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Why would they just accept the caller's word for it? You are the person they know. Do they not realize how absurd that makes them appear,
Human nature is a funny thing -- say something good about a person and it is rarely passed on. Say something bad about a person and the word travels with the speed of light.
There is a guilty until proven atmosphere at this place. Boss asked my immediate supervisor 4 times if my work met standards. You would think one Yes would have been sufficient.
Thanks
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09
That blows my mind! Did your boss even get the name of the caller or ask for any proof? It makes no sense that any goofball could call and make a false accusation against one of the employees and no questions asked.....just buy into the whole ball of wax! Man, I do not know how you work at a place like that but with the way things are now days, we have to be careful about just jumping up and leaving our jobs, don't we? I am very thankful to have a job.
I sure hope everything proves to show them you are what you profess to be.
Take care, Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
