It sounds as if she is trying to make everything sound "normal" between you. Sort of like you are friends instead of husband and wife.
Maybe spending some quality time with the grandkids would do you a world of good. As for the bike, if you don't mind her having it tell her it will be on the porch or somewhere like that and that she can pick it up, you are not a delivery man!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
