Well, I had my Coach Busting session with Jody. Incredible. I'm glad I did it. I have two more session with her coming up and I am really looking forward to it now. I just found out he's still calling the EA/OW, but not nearly as much. There's been a HUGE drop off. And she hadn't called him since January 21. But she has answered the phone a handful of times, maybe 4 times since then. But she did call him for one minute this morning and he called her back for one minute. Not sure what is going on there. He called me about an hour later. It was of no importance really, just a call. I feel like he and I won't be able to recover if this girl comes back into his life.
But before that knowledge I was feeling pretty good. I thought she had stopped calling him. Not much I can do about it either way.
I've been reading some books about relationships and how divorce comes about. Very very insightful.
My in laws were here this past weekend. I stayed at my friend's place because it was my H's weekend with our S, but saw them on Saturday and saw them on Sunday for breakfast. We were going to do brunch but H texted me and said they wanted to do breakfast at our place. So my friend and her husband (very good buddy of H's) and I went over there. It was good. His parents have always been very good to me and nothing has changed. My friend and her husband were leaving. They were out front and my father in law was going out to the car to put something in it.
Out of no where, friend tells me FIL says "We've got quite the situation here.....but we all need to worry about that little guy in there." Friend's answer was "I pray for them every day." Short conversation even shorter, FIL was thanking them for everything they've done for us. Friend went on to tell him I love H. She's acknowledged what she's done in the marriage to damage it and has been working very hard. She's come a long way, she's done a great job. Friend said FIL didn't speak for about 20 seconds and he's eyes welled up. She said he was getting himself under control. Once he does he says "Well, I can't add anything else to that." Friend went to shake his hand and he pulls her in for a hug. I've always wondered what his parents know, what he's told them. FIL said "H asks me what he should do......I tell him he has to make this decision." That's better than "Leave her." We'll see. Things between us have been very good. I'm not calling him anymore, unless he calls me. I send him texts if I need to communicate with him, which is really only related to S. I've gotten a life with yoga, tennis and friends and stuff. That's been really great for me. So, hurry up and wait. And figure out my life and what I want out of it and what I can control.
I just really need this EA/OW to end completely. I think that would go a long way for us.
M-33 H-34 S-almost 3 Bomb-Mid November 2008 Moved out early December 2008
