I just talked to my therapist and she said that I should call her and tell her. She coached me not to sound needy, but just approach as a need to vent. She had said in the past the I used to shield my wife from this type of news/info and just deal with it on my own (which would cause more issues).

So I called her and told her I was having a really tough day as I just got out of meeting that talked about accross the board paycuts. She said she was sorry to hear about that. I asked her how her day was. She said better than mine (I guess it was her way to inject some humor in there). It was odd as I didn't feel any emotion or support in her tone. Very painful.

I still have a pit in my stomach as it feels likes she has given up. My therapist said I must recognize that there is nothing I do or say is going to affect her decision. I must remember that.

It's still tough


Me 41
WAW 36
S 3&7
M 10 yrs
W files D 1/9/09
W moves out 4/18
Lost job 6/15
New job 7/27
Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!)
Confronted 8/11
Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11
Lost Job 11/13