I love your analogy. I'm feeling like the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train, though. Or a mirage? A hallucination? A wish? I know that my life will get better soon, it's just a matter of holding things together until soon becomes now. Thanks for your thoughts. As frank_D told me, perhaps now will be the time that I focus on MY survival instead of XW's, because I am useless to everyone in this state.
Tom
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07