You're gonna make me cuss in brogue again, aren't you?
Flip Wilson type voice, for humorous inflection:
Just chill, people. We get enough picking and bickering at home, we DON'T need it here. And I'm supposed to be taking a breather and getting some work done... man, I'm gonna WHOMP SOME ASS... don't make me go there...
Have a few beers, put on some good tunes... my personal favorite to go along with a nice micro brew is Sweet Home Alabama by Lynyrd Skynyrd, if anyone is looking for a recommendation. If not, well, tough, you just got it anyway.
Everybody gets a TIME OUT for the weekend. Clear? Be back Monday a.m. sharp for progress reports. If you don't, I'll worry, and then YOU WILL have a serious problem with my proverbial foot all up the nether regions of your backside.
Cathy..holy cow..I read this post and said..can I relate to this or what??? My H lies so much and I always know when he is avoiding me..he was abused by both parents, and his first wife!! He goes along with everything!! I get so tired of him NOT giving his opinion, because he is so intelligent and I value that and admire him for it. Yet he doesn't believe me!! What do I do?? He did tell me one day he was tired of my s**t!! I asked him what?? He said he hated it that I was always right! more !! He would tell me something, ask my opinion, then do the opposite of my suggestion, and get hurt by his family as a result! I watched this happen so many times. Finally he stood up to them by taking his sister and niece into our home when his Mom threw them out! That was the beginning of the end! He finally stood up to the abuser! She on the other hand went around town bashing me and saying my H had a leash on his neck! That I hated the idea of family..so not true at all..She would not attack him, as he is an extension of her..so the blame fell on me..He is so guilty and hurt,that nobody speaks to him, because of me. I suggested he knock on her door and tell her how he feels, but he won't do it..he says it doesn't matter, but I think it does. When it comes to us..it is anything I want to do, yet he is a loner..when I am around. Whenever I have gone out of state to visit family, he calls on old friends, or does something (who knows what??) and refuses to tell me! I am so frustrated because we have not had any connection for 2 months now..he is here, but not really..I try to be who I am. I go to work, take care of our home and garden. Still cook meals and take care of mostly everything. He works, eats and sleeps!! Leave him? My head says get out now..my heart says ..I love the man I married! He was fun..where is he?? I want him back..and I have told him this many times.. If you read my post..How do I fix what has been broken, you will see where I am at right now..When he gets angry I do walk away. Only because he gets angry over nothing..for real! He blows his top and makes no sense, and I sit and look at him wondering what is going on in his head..MLC? manic depression? what is it? I found $500 on our kitchen table one day..he was cutting the lawn..I went out to ask him where did it come from..He started screaming and cursing that all he wanted to do was cut the lawn..I realized, he'd screwed up..he was supposed to deposit his paycheck..not cash it..as I pulled out of the driveway in my car, he was still carrying on all by himself, pushing the lawnmower!! My poor neighbors I went to the bank, deposited the money, came home and got ready for work. That nite when I got home we sat outside and talked about things in general. I tried to set a romantic atmosphere. Lit the Fire, candles, wine, snacks..he went to bed! He said he could barely keep his eyes open. Yet he was asleep when I called him at 6 and again when I got home at 11:30. So now what? butterfly..
Okay, where are you? I'm beginning to have the nigglings of a fret attack, and fretting is never a good thing. If I move into full-blown fretting mode, I will begin to heap mounds of guilt on your head. I also found my can of WHOMP ASS, so if outright guilt doesn't work, I could move into 'throwing a little fit' mode. But since you can't see my fit via BBS, it will be a complete waste of effort. Must be witnessed in person for a true appreciation.
So you must CLEARLY see the dilema you are putting me in... fine. I hope you sleep well, knowing that full-fret mode is just a short time away. No, no, it's okay, don't worry about those WHO CARE (even though we don't really KNOW each other beyond some very honest give and take, and a few flared tempers thrown in for good measure.)
Really. It's okay... I [sniffle] I can go on... (where did I put my tissues...) I suppose when someone just 'shuts the door,' well, the door is shut for good. (Oh, oh, goodness, is that a tear drop I felt? No, no, it couldn't be as I am not yet in full fret mode.... (I do this really well on stage)...
Ah, well, tah tah for now...[sniffle]. Oh, THERE are my box of tissues...I'll just be taking them with me and will run along now...
Yes, I suppose my latest post could be construed as a 'pressure' tactic. Maybe. I had intended it as a more humorous nudge than anything else... just to let him know that we are rooting for him, miss him, and only want the best for him. AND, I also happen to be a royal pain-in-the-ass, so there is that to consider as well.
I'd do the same for you 'cuz I really like you. (Boy howdy, don't you feel lucky...)
Cathy..holy cow..I read this post and said..can I relate to this or what??? My H lies so much and I always know when he is avoiding me..he was abused by both parents, and his first wife!! He goes along with everything!! I get so tired of him NOT giving his opinion, because he is so intelligent and I value that and admire him for it. Yet he doesn't believe me!! 
What do I do?? He did tell me one day he was tired of my s**t!! I asked him what?? He said he hated it that I was always right! more 
I watched this happen so many times. Finally he stood up to them by taking his sister and niece into our home when his Mom threw them out! That was the beginning of the end! He finally stood up to the abuser! She on the other hand went around town bashing me and saying my H had a leash on his neck! That I hated the idea of family..so not true at all..She would not attack him, as he is an extension of her..so the blame fell on me..He is so guilty and hurt,that nobody speaks to him, because of me. I suggested he knock on her door and tell her how he feels, but he won't do it..he says it doesn't matter, but I think it does. When it comes to us..it is anything I want to do, yet he is a loner..when I am around. Whenever I have gone out of state to visit family, he calls on old friends, or does something (who knows what??) and refuses to tell me! I am so frustrated because we have not had any connection for 2 months now..he is here, but not really..I try to be who I am. I go to work, take care of our home and garden. Still cook meals and take care of mostly everything. He works, eats and sleeps!! Leave him? My head says get out now..my heart says ..I love the man I married! He was fun..where is he?? I want him back..and I have told him this many times..
I went to the bank, deposited the money, came home and got ready for work. That nite when I got home we sat outside and talked about things in general. I tried to set a romantic atmosphere. Lit the Fire, candles, wine, snacks..he went to bed! He said he could barely keep his eyes open. Yet he was asleep when I called him at 6 and again when I got home at 11:30. So now what?